In Her Own Words
About Her
I’m not a sex-first partner—if you want a copulation buddy or expect on-demand/clockwork intercourse, please move on. I want a steady, affectionate relationship where intimacy isn’t transactional, and chemistry doesn’t need proving: hugs, cuddles, deep conversations, genuine closeness, and pressure-free spark.
I’m independent, thoughtful, and am used to my own company, but I’d love to share life with someone truly compatible. I expect mutual faithfulness and trust—no policing, no insecurity about normal friendships or social life.
I’m plus-size and working on my health. I won’t pretend confidence is effortless and I honestly can feel vulnerable to rejection (particularly when I actually get a message), but I'm working on it —if you can take that in stride and partner in mutual self-improvement, we’ll get on.
I enjoy true‑crime/court videos (people-watching is a hobby), nature and gardening (seed-collector, yet to plant), board and PC games, good food, and occasional travel. I prefer natural presentation, and comfy clothes over trends or brands, and I like people who do their own thinking—spot BS, check facts, and form their own conclusions.
More countryside than city; I delight in nature, flavourful food, and simple joys & pleasures. I hope to start my own business in next year or two.
I’m realistic: chemistry isn’t guaranteed, so starting as (and potentially staying) friends is fine. If feelings shift, let’s be open and kind about it—no dragging things out.
If you're messaging from say over an hour away, is the local fishing really that bad, and do you think that we could make this work? Genuinely interested & curious.
Honestly, I'm terrified of the devastation after losing loved-ones, but I can't let that stop me from reaching out for good times and potential new loved-ones.
About Her Ideal Match
A level-headed, kind teammate (and personal hero) who invests in a healthy, evolving partnership. Reliable, affectionate, and funny, someone who respects boundaries and growth. Independence matters: share the cooking, cleaning, and emotional labour—own your stuff and help without needing to be asked. Small spontaneous gestures (yes, make a cuppa sometimes) are treasured.
Be curious about food and open to trying things; food brings me joy and I want a partner who can share it rather than be permanently picky.
Regular heavy drinking or constant pub nights is a mismatch.
I’m an ex‑smoker (might occasionally accept an offered one); long‑term heavy smoking likely won’t work.
I'm attracted to well‑kempt long hair on men, but personality, humour, and decency will & does beat an attractive prick every time.
Tell me about your interests so we can find shared or new things to enjoy together.
Think for yourself, be honest, and avoid performative loudness—no authoritarian pundits, please. Be faithful because you choose to be. Low drama, high care, and zero tolerance for unnecessary BS. We gently call each other out—spotting blind spots, shaky logic, or denial, and pointing it out with care so we can both grow.
I’m learning to let my playful, warm, oddball side out—I’d love someone who makes me feel safe, joyful, free, and utterly at ease. Lets enjoy good times together, in all walks of life.
Ideally I want someone to grow old with—committed to getting and staying healthy (not necessarily an Adonis, just fit enough for a long life). I get it — I’m big now and working on my health for the long haul; I’d love someone who’s at some stage of doing the same, so we can grow old together (and then playfully humorously argue about old people stuff together).
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About Her
Country of Origin: |
Ask me later | |
Location: |
Sligo, Border, Ireland | |
Gender: |
Female | |
Age: |
45 | |
Star Sign: |
Leo | |
Height: |
174cm (5' 8.5") | |
Body Type: |
Large | |
Looks: |
Average | |
Hair Colour: |
Dark Blonde | |
Eye Colour: |
Blue-Green | |
Ethnicity: |
White/Caucasian | |
Home Language: |
English | |
Other Languages: |
Ask me later | |
Religion: |
Spiritual, but not religious | |
Relationship Status: |
Single | |
Looking for: |
Just online friends; Activity partners; Friends; Open to possibilities; Long-term | |
Have Children: |
No | |
Want Children: |
Maybe | |
Daily Diet: |
Eat most things | |
Smoking: |
Non-Smoker | |
Drinking: |
Occasional Drinker | |
Education: |
Some University / College | |
Occupation: |
Other | |
Income: |
Struggling |
About Her Ideal Match
Country of Origin: |
Anywhere in the World | ||
Location: |
Sligo (Border, Ireland) | ||
Gender: |
Male | ||
Age Range: |
40 - 50 | ||
Star Sign: |
Any | ||
Height: |
174cm (5' 8.5") - 210cm (6' 10.7") or taller | ||
Body Type: |
Slim; Average; Athletic; A few extra pounds; Stocky | ||
Looks: |
Any | ||
Hair Colour: |
Any | ||
Eye Colour: |
Any | ||
Has a Photo: |
Not important at all | ||
Ethnicity: |
Any | ||
Home Language: |
Any | ||
Other Languages: |
Any | ||
Religion: |
Spiritual, but not religious | ||
Relationship Status: |
Single; Divorced; Widowed | ||
Have Children: |
Any | ||
Want Children: |
Any | ||
Daily Diet: |
Eat most things; Eat healthily | ||
Smoking: |
Non-Smoker; Occasional; Trying to Quit | ||
Drinking: |
Non-Drinker; Occasional Drinker | ||
Education: |
High / secondary school; Current University / College Student; Some University / College; Technical Diploma; Associates degree; Bachelors degree; Postgraduate degree; PhD / Post Doctoral | ||
Occupation: |
Any | ||
Income: |
Any |
- Not important at all
- Slightly important
- Moderately important
- Decidedly important
- Non-negotiable
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